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I'm a skater. To be any good at skating requires one major thing: balance. If you aren't able to find your center of gravity, you won't be able to move forward. It's funny how such a simple law of nature is so important. It isn't just important in skating, though. It's important in life.
As well as being a skater, I'm a full-time medical biller. I'm also a recent college graduate, and still working on my certification. I have a husband, two kids, and—just like everyone else—family drama. Balance is so important. It would be easy to become overwhelmed by the day-to-day struggles of being a working-class parent with too many responsibilities and not enough time. It took me a very long time to understand that in order to excel at being a parent, employee, wife, skater, and everything else I wanted to be able to be, I had to find the point where the scales tipped. And it is a very fine point, indeed.
I've learned that when I'm worn out from a long week at work, I need to order Chinese and catch up on the DVR with my husband. When I'm frustrated with my daughter for being a 15-year-old drama queen that swears, "It's not fair!", I need to go skate it out. When I've skated and my feet hurt and I'm frustrated that I'm not as fast as I want to be, I need to soak in the tub. When my brain hurts from studying, I need to stop and do stuff with my kids. And I still get overwhelmed. A good cry never hurt anyone.
The point, I guess, is that we each need to find time for ourselves and realize when to stop pushing ourselves past the point of progress. I think that's where a lot of people hit the wall or burn out. I've done it many times. I don't pretend to have it all figured out, but I definitely believe that finding a little bit of balance has helped me by allowing me to cut myself some slack and enjoy the things I'm working so hard for.